Do you have times when you don’t sleep, are snappy, agitated, flat, numb or withdrawn? Are you buying too many things online or working more hours than you need to? Are you scared to be at home? Is it difficult to start the workday? Are you in a relationship that isn’t working? Have you lost a loved one? Even the things we celebrate can cause us to feel swamped and full of mixed feelings we would rather avoid. It's hard to talk to anyone about them. Even harder to talk to a stranger like me.
You’ve made a great start in looking at my website for help, to explore what your thoughts and feelings are about, to want to understand why you behave the way you do and the people around you. I know you’ll need someone who is calm and understanding. Someone who has life experience, someone who recognises the emotional distress that life events can bring. I’m well aware how times like that have felt for me. I know about that critical voice in your head telling you to get a grip, get on with it, stop being stuck. I know you want help with someone who gets you.
As a mother (of a grown-up daughter) and through my own therapy when I was in training, I now have a better perspective and personal insight into how family and life traumas interconnect, and what part I played within these dynamics. I understand how I got to where I am now, and I’m open to the not-knowing exactly how the future will pan out.
I’ve been in various working environments for many years. Besides being a private practice counsellor, I counsel students within a secondary school and have worked in the voluntary sector providing pro bono counselling sessions for the last 15 years. I also have experience working in the corporate finance sector. This gives me a wider understanding of working practices, the pressures of the life/work balancing act and the impact this often has on your wellbeing.
I know you’ll want to find someone to connect with. Someone who gets who you are and accepts the place you’re in without judging what you are saying. It’s not my place to judge you but to help you through your difficult time at your pace, not mine, to work alongside you and be a guide to where you want to be. And if you’re unsure what that is, that’s OK. Let’s find out together. Maybe you know how you might work best. You may want some direction, or to lead the way. I can share some ideas with you and we’ll work it out together. With regular reviews, we can work together and agree on the way forward.
This is YOUR therapy and YOUR time. I will never tell you what to do, but I will help you find answers through the exploration of the problems you are facing. Together, we can develop strategies and look at new and more positive ways to deal with difficulties.